Crushes are a common experience for kids and these days the average age cupid's arrow is hitting a lot sooner than parents may think--or be prepared for. These feelings are normal and even important developmental milestones for children. Crushes and first loves prepare our kids for the real world of intimacy and commitment as well as the pain of rejection.

Puppy love can start even in preschool with a playmate attraction but it is more typical around five to eight during those early grade school years. Though such "attractions" are generally short lived--sometimes lasting no more than even a day--the child does care about the pal but usually bounces back quickly and moves on.

Giggling, giving affectionate little hugs (or even a kiss), and even announcing he's my "girlfriend or boyfriend" are typical. Slightly older grade schoolers may blush, be embarrassed. These early "love" memories endure and can leave a lasting impact--though harmless--on our psyche. Most everyone can recall his or her first early love.

Tips for parents on handling first puppy love:

1. Don't be too concerned. This too shall pass.


2. Do show an interest in your child's feelings and beliefs.


3. Take a reality check that you're not "encouraging" this "cute" behavior and your kid isn't acting "too sexualized" due to media influence or modeling an older sibling or you

More Young Love "Firsts"

• First Puppy Love
• First Crush
• First Steady
• First Breakup
• First Date
• First Real Love
• First Time

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Dr. Michele Borba is the author of over 22 books including 12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know .