A first date is going out "one on one." Though most parents (especially fathers of daughters) would like to hold this rite of passage until around 35, polls say a first date is around fifteen.  Before the age of about 15 or 16 most dating is done in groups--boys and girls go together to a movie, a sports game or a mall--and all get to know each other.

Getting those car keys puts a whole different spin on the dating scene. Dating rules are different for each family which could range from disallowing it completely or allowing it only after your child reaches a certain age.

Tips for parents for handling the first date:

1. Set clear dating age rules.


2. Set a curfew and review them with the date. Know where they are going.


3. Personally meet. Insist on personally meeting each date ideally in your home.


4. Beware of "too big of age differences" in dating.


5. Don't push too early. Studies show that early dating leads to early sexual activity. Waiting to pair off until age 16 or older tends to slow down the rush to sex.


6. Encourage involvement in groups that are adult supervised.

More Young Love "Firsts"

• First Puppy Love
• First Crush
• First Steady
• First Breakup
• First Date
• First Real Love
• First Time

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Dr. Michele Borba is the author of over 22 books including 12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know.