Middle school and even into high school is generally where those first heartbreaks in head over heels relationship end. Regardless of age, first love and then first rejection can be traumatic and a big blow to self-esteem.

We know life will go on and there will be others, but a kid doesn't have that perspective. The parent's job is to find ways to support your child and help her cope through that first big heartbreak.

Tips for parents on handling the first breakup

1. Listen and acknowledge. Be an attentive, sympathetic ear or shoulder.


2. Share your experiences to help normalize it. Give some perspective that's he's not alone: "I remember when I was 13 there was this guy I really liked..."


3. Fill her social calendar and boost her self-worth. Self-esteem may take a nose-dive.


4. Don't dismiss the pain by saying things like,"Don't worry, there will be other boys." Even though there will be, no rejected kid wants "others" at the moment.


5. Watch for red flags. Your kid is grieving so it's normal for her to cry, mope and withdraw. You should see a gradual return to her old self. If not, get help.


6. Caution against retaliation and baring her feelings online for the entire world to read.

More Young Love "Firsts"

• First Puppy Love
• First Crush
• First Steady
• First Breakup
• First Date
• First Real Love
• First Time

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Dr. Michele Borba is the author of over 22 books including 12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know.